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Kindness isn’t a Weakness.

10th Aug 2021

All too often we hear the phrase ‘you’re too nice’, or ‘you’re too kind’ as though it’s a negative. The onus seeming to suggest that being ‘too’ kind can be a bad thing. Or a weakness. But why? Have you ever met someone who helped or inspired you and thought ‘I’m grateful to them for their help but they were a bit too kind to me?’ Or did you think quite the opposite and remember what they did for you with great appreciation?

As Robert Ingersoll pointed out ‘We rise by lifting others.’ Kindness surely therefore can only assist you in life. Think of a time someone was kind to you and think about how it made you feel. Think of how it then made you want to pass that same kindness on to others.

When we speak to our children about what makes them happy, many of the examples they give involve someone being kind to them or an act of kindness. When we ask them what helps them to feel more confident or stronger in themselves, again kindness is at the heart of those examples.

If we can harness that kindness from a young age imagine the difference we can make. Before the world has a chance to convince us that being ‘too’ kind is a negative, what if we could get in there first with the future generations and show them you can never be too kind.

Every time we create an act of kindness in the world, we touch the life of another, and we can never know how just much of a difference or an impact that one small act can make. We never know what is going on in another’s life and how much they may need just that one smile, or that one offer of help. How can those acts ever be seen as a weakness? If you, through just one act, can make another person’s day better then how can that ever be deemed a weakness?

So how then can we instill this in our children to drive forward a shift in this thinking for the future?

  1. We lead by example. Even if we think they aren’t listening to us they are copying our actions. So incorporate kindness into your everyday interactions with others and see how your children follow your lead.
  2. Use our resources to help. Our book ‘Be Friends with Bert’ is a great way to begin these discussions with your children about the impact kindness can have and teach them about empathy. Display our posters so ‘kindness’ awareness is everywhere.
  3. Consider signing them up to be a BulliesOut mini or youth ambassador. From as young as 5 years old our programme can start to help show them the power of kindness and the importance in our actions towards another. Full of interactive activities and teamwork it’s a great way to both boost their self-confidence and work towards achievements whilst also allowing them to open their eyes to the true power of the kindness inside.

Kindness is in all of us. Some of us just need to be empowered to know how to use it.

As Harold Kushner puts it ‘Do things for people, not because of who they are or what they do in return, but because of who you are.’


Written by, Lucy Howard, BulliesOut Digital Communications Officer



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