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Let Someone In

17th Aug 2021

Let someone in. We say it a lot, don’t we?

‘Tell someone’.

Share your concerns’.

‘A problem shared is a problem halved’.

’It’s good to talk’.

All phrases we hear, and use, regularly. If someone we know is struggling, then we encourage them to ‘open up’ to someone, and to talk about it. To let someone in.

When I looked up the phrase ‘Opening up to another’ I was struck by one of the descriptions: ‘To be willing to share yourself’ was one of the definitions given. That’s a big ask, isn’t it? When you look at it in those terms, we are asking such a lot of people when we encourage them to ‘open up’. To share yourself with another. At a time you feel at your most vulnerable. And potentially to someone you may not even know. And whilst it has many benefits and can make a real difference to our emotional well-being, to open up to another, what should also be considered is what a big ask that is.

The benefits to letting someone in are very real. As Jasmine Navarro identified in her blog for us, ‘Having one person in our lives that we can share our real feelings with can make all the difference.’ But if we are finding it too hard to open up or to reach out, there are other ways we can help ourselves too:

  1. Identify 5 people that make you feel good about yourself, or, that when you spend time with, have a positive impact on your mood. Even if you aren’t ready to open up to someone, surrounding yourself with people that you identify as a positive influence on your mood can help. It also places you in a position to open up to them if you feel comfortable enough to do so.
  2. Try writing down how you feel. You could journal, or even use our Gratitude Journal, to do so. Sometimes we find it easier to express ourselves using the written word then orally. And if you find that easier, then if you do decide you want to open up, you could always show someone what you have written down instead of having to voice it.
  3. We can help. Reach out to us in confidence here. You can chat to one of our specially trained mentors over email about your feelings.
  4. If you don’t want to talk but feel able to reach out via text, you can text SHOUT on 85258. One of our very own team members is a crisis volunteer with them so we know first-hand what supportive a service they are.

Ultimately in reaching out and ‘sharing yourself’ with another, the chances are it will significantly improve how you are feeling. In talking we feel less alone and that we have the support of others. But to do so is no easy thing and so if it is something you struggle with, please know you are not alone in this. We need to normalise just how hard it can be to open up to another and let them in.

If some of our suggestions above help, then let us know. And if you have any others for us, please get in touch.


Written by Lucy Howard, BulliesOut Digital Communications Officer


Thanks to Priscilla Du Preez @priscilladupreez for making this photo available freely on Unsplash


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