4th Jan 2022
It’s a question we get asked a lot. What should you do if your child is being bullied, either at school, out of school or even online? It can feel overwhelming as a parent because it can feel out of our control, but there are things we can do to help and support them through.
When a child makes a disclosure to us that they have been bullied, how we react in that instant is important. It could be something that has taken them weeks, maybe months to pluck up the courage to tell us and so we need to ensure they feel valued and supported when they do.
First, and most importantly, it is important to remind them it is not their fault. It can feel extremely personal when we are bullied and so it’s very hard to comprehend that it’s not about us, and so it’s imperative to make sure they know that immediately.
Secondly, make sure they know they can continue to tell you about it. It’s extremely important they don’t feel isolated or alone and that they know that they should confide in someone they trust with any future incidents.
Thirdly, encourage them to keep a written record of events. If the bullying is taking place online, then encourage them to screenshot the comments. It’s important to ensure you have this going forwards. Be as detailed as possible in the notes you/they make including making a note of who may have been there and witnessed the incident. To make it easier to do this, download a copy of our Bullying Behaviour Incident log here.
Fourthly, ensure you help them report it. To the school, to the police (to the platform if online). But it’s important to explain to them how important it is to report it to ensure action can be taken and so that the same treatment doesn’t happen to another.
Lastly, get them to contact our e-Mentors for support. We offer a free and confidential e- Mentoring system that can help and support them in instances such as this. Contact them here.
Remember, it can be an extremely emotional time for parents when our child is bullied. We can help support you too. We offer free online courses to parents discussing this in more detail. Book a session here if you think you would like more help and support in this area. Remember, you are not alone. We are here to help and together we will get them through this.
Written by Lucy Howard, BulliesOut Head of Content and Media
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