20th Jul 2022
A day dedicated to Parents? What does that even look like? Can Parents out there remember what it feels like to have a day devoted entirely to doing as they want?
We jest, but it’s an important day because parenting, whilst it can feel like the best job in the world, can also feel like the toughest and the loneliest. And so, it is important to take time out to appreciate that and support one another. Often parents feel very guilty admitting they are struggling. So often we are told we should feel ‘grateful’ or that we are ’lucky’ that many are left feeling it is not appropriate to moan or complain. And yes, whilst as parents we do know we are lucky, that doesn’t mean that we aren’t allowed to also feel overwhelmed, anxious, stressed or sad. Accepting our feelings is something we talk to our children about regularly, but perhaps we need to ensure we take some of our own advice too.
We tell our children to talk about their feelings, but how often do we as parents talk about our feelings? When was the last time you answered the question ‘How are you?’ – honestly? Sometimes, some of the exercises we encourage our children to do can also be helpful for us as adults. Our challenge to you this Parents Day is to try one of these:
Write down five people you trust and can reach out to if you need help or support. Simply listing their names can make a big difference. And tell them! Knowing someone trusts you can really strengthen that bond and makes another feel great about themselves. Parenting is about building a network. Either online or offline, but we need to know we have people backing us and supporting us when times are hard.
Download ours for free and give it a try? Listing what has made us happy or what has impacted our mood throughout the day can help us identify if there are changes we need to make to help our emotional wellbeing. We focus so much on the emotional well-being of our children – when was the last time you took the time to do that for yourself?
We use them with our children to boost their confidence levels and self-esteem. When did you last tell yourself you were doing a good job? Positive affirmations can make such a difference. Whether you write your own or try ours , consider giving them a go today.
Identify what works for you and carve out some time for it. Probably the hardest to actually do in practice, but the benefits of practicing mindfulness regularly speak for themselves. And you never know, seeing you make time for it may well inspire your children to do the same.
Ultimately, as parents, we need to recognise that self-care isn’t selfish. Our children copy what we do and so to see us making time for ourselves and prioritising our emotional well-being can only positively impact them going forwards. We recognise it isn’t easy and that it may only be a few minutes you can spare first thing in the morning or last thing at night. But even if it’s simply getting up 10 minutes early to have a coffee and some fresh air in silence – take time today to invest in yourself. We think you’re doing a great job.
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