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Surviving Christmas Alone

22nd Dec 2020

Whether by choice or circumstance, some people will be spending Christmas alone this year. But there’s a difference between being alone and being lonely and the first step could just be acknowledging that this year is different and may be tough.

It’s helpful to acknowledge difficult feelings – feeling disappointed, sad or upset are all entirely understandable responses to what’s happened this year and what we’re facing over Christmas. Pretending everything’s fine when you don’t feel that way isn’t helpful – and it can make us feel worse.

If being alone on Christmas day is unavoidable for you, try and enjoy the solitude. Plan a day for yourself. Cook your favourite foods, buy yourself something online to treat yourself, catch up on TV shows you never have the time to watch or plan a Christmas movie marathon (see our list at the end). Or why not do that ‘something different’ you’ve always wanted to do like learning a new language or starting work on the new book that’s been in your head for ages.

Why not let go of the usual traditions? After all, if you’re spending Christmas alone, you get to choose the ones you like best! If you don’t like Christmas dinner, eat whatever you want. Choose all of your favourites. Give yourself the permission to have the Christmas you want (without breaking the rules of course) – it can make you feel really good.

Celebrate Online with your friends and family. Why not host an ‘Online Christmas’ where people can drop in and out as they please? Zoom says it will lift 40-minute time restrictions for all free accounts during Christmas and New Year.  You can all catch up and socialise as well as keeping each other safe …. and no cooking or clearing up for a big group needed!

If there is one thing we’ve all learned this year, it’s the importance of self-care and being kind to ourselves. Having a bath or shower, using our most poshest toiletries (why do we always save these?) can be a really uplifting way to start the day. If you don’t want to get dressed up, you don’t have to. Pop on your comfy PJs or lounge wear. This Christmas is all about you.

If the weather allows, go for a stroll around your neighbourhood or the local park. Physical activity and access to nature is always good for our mental well-being.

Okay, time to get a little serious. Life is what you make it. Always has been, always will be. If you constantly dwell on negativity your life will become centred around that.  As hard as it is, try and focus on the positives. Think about everything you have to be grateful for. Although 2020 has been a really tough year, there will still be something to be grateful for. Having gratitude will also help you to move past any feelings of anxiety.  One way to practice gratitude is to write down three things you are grateful for on this day. You can download our Gratitude Journal to help with this.

Christmas Films

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  • Jingle Jangle – New for 2020 – a festive film from the makers of The Greatest Showman. A great family feel good watch about a toy maker who finds new hope in his life when his grand-daughter comes to visit. For us here at BulliesOut this is a new favourite as it highlights how important it is to value ourselves and our uniqueness.
  • Arthur Christmas – An animated film from 2011 which details the story of Arthur Claus, the son of Father Christmas, who discovers that Santa’s high-tech ship has failed to deliver a present to one little girl. A modern take on the traditional story.
  • The Christmas Chronicles – a 2018 film following the story of two children who catch Santa in their home and jump on board his sleigh. A family feel good movie.
  • The Christmas Chronicles 2 – New for 2020 – the sequel follows the children from the first film and their further adventures with Santa and Mrs Claus.
  • The Holiday –A 2006 romantic comedy where two women, both with issues in their love lives, arrange a house swap for Christmas.Sky Christmas

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  • Elf – Released in 2003 Elf is the story of Buddy, a human, raised amongst elves in the North Pole. When he discovers he isn’t an elf himself he sets off in search of is biological Father.
  • Love Actually –The 2003 Christmas themed romantic comedy following the lives of some couples in differing relationships.
  • It’s a Wonderful Life – The 1946 classic story of George Bailey and his guardian angel Clarence. A true Christmas classic. (some versions are in B/W)
  • The Polar Express – This 2004 animated film follows the story of a young boy who boards a train to the North Pole to meet Santa Claus.
  • Santa Claus The Movie – The 1985 classic tells the story of an elf named Patch who sets out to employ Santa’s toymaking methods for himself without thinking of the damage that could cause.
  • The Grinch – Two versions of this exist. One from 2000 and one more recently from 2018. They tell the story of Cindy Lou Who and her adventures with The Grinch, who is so fed up with Christmas spirit he sets out on a mission to steal Christmas.
  • White Christmas – the 1954 classic romantic musical featuring the classic song itself. Two sisters meet a male musical double act and between them they try to save Christmas for an Inn in Vermont.

Twelve films with a little bit of everything thrown in. Some animated, some not, some musicals, some comedies; some new ones, some classics, something to hopefully suit everyone’s tastes.

From all of us here at BulliesOut we would like to take this opportunity to wish you all a very Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year. We are so grateful for absolutely every last bit of support you have all given us this year.

For those who would like to speak with someone over the Festive season, you can email our Mentors: mentorsonline@bulliesout.com or visit our useful links page for further help and support.

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