22nd Dec 2020
Whether by choice or circumstance, some people will be spending Christmas alone this year. But there’s a difference between being alone and being lonely and the first step could just be acknowledging that this year is different and may be tough.
It’s helpful to acknowledge difficult feelings – feeling disappointed, sad or upset are all entirely understandable responses to what’s happened this year and what we’re facing over Christmas. Pretending everything’s fine when you don’t feel that way isn’t helpful – and it can make us feel worse.
If being alone on Christmas day is unavoidable for you, try and enjoy the solitude. Plan a day for yourself. Cook your favourite foods, buy yourself something online to treat yourself, catch up on TV shows you never have the time to watch or plan a Christmas movie marathon (see our list at the end). Or why not do that ‘something different’ you’ve always wanted to do like learning a new language or starting work on the new book that’s been in your head for ages.
Why not let go of the usual traditions? After all, if you’re spending Christmas alone, you get to choose the ones you like best! If you don’t like Christmas dinner, eat whatever you want. Choose all of your favourites. Give yourself the permission to have the Christmas you want (without breaking the rules of course) – it can make you feel really good.
Celebrate Online with your friends and family. Why not host an ‘Online Christmas’ where people can drop in and out as they please? Zoom says it will lift 40-minute time restrictions for all free accounts during Christmas and New Year. You can all catch up and socialise as well as keeping each other safe …. and no cooking or clearing up for a big group needed!
If there is one thing we’ve all learned this year, it’s the importance of self-care and being kind to ourselves. Having a bath or shower, using our most poshest toiletries (why do we always save these?) can be a really uplifting way to start the day. If you don’t want to get dressed up, you don’t have to. Pop on your comfy PJs or lounge wear. This Christmas is all about you.
If the weather allows, go for a stroll around your neighbourhood or the local park. Physical activity and access to nature is always good for our mental well-being.
Okay, time to get a little serious. Life is what you make it. Always has been, always will be. If you constantly dwell on negativity your life will become centred around that. As hard as it is, try and focus on the positives. Think about everything you have to be grateful for. Although 2020 has been a really tough year, there will still be something to be grateful for. Having gratitude will also help you to move past any feelings of anxiety. One way to practice gratitude is to write down three things you are grateful for on this day. You can download our Gratitude Journal to help with this.
Twelve films with a little bit of everything thrown in. Some animated, some not, some musicals, some comedies; some new ones, some classics, something to hopefully suit everyone’s tastes.
From all of us here at BulliesOut we would like to take this opportunity to wish you all a very Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year. We are so grateful for absolutely every last bit of support you have all given us this year.
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