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23rd May 2022

Who Has Access To You?

25th Jan 2022

Love it or hate it, Social Media is here to stay. And our relationship with it is integrally linked to things such as our self- esteem, confidence and anxiety levels.

Many of us associate social media, and our use of it, with catching up on what our friends and acquaintances are doing. Some use it for work purposes, others use it to make themselves feel part of something or for information. Whatever its use, it forms part of our day to day life, and so a healthy relationship with it is key to our emotional wellbeing.

We no longer live in a world where we can easily say we will just ‘stop using technology’. We now need it for so much that to stop completely proves too difficult and people give up. Instead, a better way to look at a digital detox is to analyse our time spent online and look at ways in which we can make best use of it.

Thinking of who has access to you online and when they are allowed that access can be a good place to start. If you start the day by logging on to social media and passively scrolling through other people’s news and photos, ask yourself, ‘would I want this person to have access to me at this time of the day? Would I call or text them or want to speak to them?’ If the answer is no, than why, perhaps before doing anything else, are you scrolling through their news and the information they choose to share?

Perhaps, instead, your use of your device could be better spent on something that will add benefit to your day. Is there someone you do want to speak to? Or something that would help you to start the day on a positive note? Can your digital device help you to do that? Think also about the immediacy of your access. How often do you find yourself sending a quick reply because you don’t want to look rude – even though it impacts on your day or those you are spending the day with? Why are we letting people have that immediate access to us? Again, thinking about making some minor changes to ‘how’ and ‘when’ we use our devices can make all the difference.

In these small changes lies a big impact. There is so much we can do with our devices to add real benefit and value to our day. Take the time to record your use of your time online and your mood before and after. By analysing that, you will be able to see for yourself what apps are adding positivity and what apps are draining you. Thatt way, you can turn your use of technology into something of benefit to your emotional wellbeing.

If this article has encouraged you to take a deeper look at your time online, we can help. Access our Digital Detox Journal here which is free to download or purchase a hard copy here.

If you would like to know more about how to make best use of your time online, we also run e – safety courses which you can book here.


Written by Lucy Howard, BulliesOut Head of Content and Media


Thanks to Árpád Czapp @czapp_arpad for making this photo available freely on Unsplash

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