The comments are from young people who have completed our questionnaire. Their names have been changed to protect their identities. If you think bullying is OK or a joke, then maybe these comments will make you realise it isn’t.
“I can’t take anymore. I just want it to stop.” Lucy, 14
“He kept on and on and on. The punches weren’t so bad. It was the comments that hurt more.” Tom, 16
“I don’t want to go to school anymore. They make my life hell. No-one listens. I want to end it all.” Ray, 14
“As a result of bullying, I developed an eating disorder at 13 which lasted until I was in my mid thirties. I’ve never really got over it” Ann, 54
Bullying creates a culture of fear and has a negative impact on everyone involved. Being bullied can seriously affect a person’s physical, emotional, academic and social well-being. Many sufferers of bullying lack confidence, feel bad about themselves, have few friends and spend a lot of time alone. If you are displaying bullying behaviour towards somebody, is this how you really want to make them feel?
According to research from http://www.ditchthelabel.org most people bully because they are looking to gain a feeling of power, purpose and control over another person. Of course, there are other reasons too:
Whilst this doesn’t condone what they do, understanding what might be behind a bully’s behaviour can sometimes help the situation and ensure they receive the relevant help and support needed to encourage them to change their behaviour.
Bullying is like an addiction and bullies can become addicted to the power and control they have over others.