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LGBT Bullying

School should be a safe place for every pupil, a primary centre for learning, developing and building a foundation for future success.

School can be challenging for any pupil, but many LGBT youth face an alarming amount of bullying and harassment. Homophobic and biphobic bullying is where people are discriminated against and treated unfairly by other people because they are lesbian, gay or bisexual or perceived to be (people who are not lesbian gay or bisexual can also experience homophobic and biphobic bullying if someone thinks that they are).

Transphobic bullying is where people are discriminated against and treated unfairly by other people because their gender identity doesn’t align with the sex they were assigned at birth or perhaps because they do not conform to stereotyped gender roles or ‘norms’.

(The above definition was taken from the LGBT Foundation http://lgbt.foundation/bullying)

Recent research by Stonewall shows that:

  • 55% of LGBT students report having experienced homophobic, biphobic or transphobic (HBT) bullying
  • 9 out of 10 secondary school teachers say that pupils in their schools have been subject to homophobic bullying. In primary schools, 45% of teachers report homophobic bullying among pupils
  • Almost one in four lesbian, gay and bisexual pupils experience cyberbullying and almost one in ten are bullied by text message.

The language used against LGBT students is unacceptable. LGBT pupils, like any other pupils, deserve to be treated with respect, tolerance and dignity because the reality is, it should never matter what your sexual orientation or identity is.

Despite the scale of the issue, not enough schools are challenging LGBT prejudice. Only half of lesbian, gay and bisexual pupils report that their schools say homophobic bullying is wrong and even fewer in faith schools, at 37%.


One of the key things to remember is how hurtful homophobic, biphobic or transphobic language can be. It is very important to deal with derogatory terms used to describe gay, bisexual or transgender people, but casual comments said in passing, such as describing a negative situation as ‘gay’, can also be very damaging.

This is incredibly widespread – 90% of students have, at least once, used the word ‘gay’ in a negative context. The presence of homophobic language is strongly linked to bullying. In schools where students frequently hear homophobic language, 68% of gay pupils are bullied, as opposed to 37% in schools where homophobic language is rarely or never heard.

Often children and young people may not realise how offensive this kind of talk can be. But throwaway comments can seriously undermine gay pupils’ self-esteem, with more than 4.5 gay students reporting they feel distressed when they hear the word ‘gay’ used in this way.

If you hear someone use this kind of language, challenge it. Ask them why they chose to describe a situation like this and not by using another word, such as ‘annoying’ or ‘bad’. This can make them realise how inappropriate the word is in this context. If they don’t have a problem with gay people, why would they associate the word gay with such negative connotations? Of course, you also need to be aware of your own language and if you have used this kind of language yourself, it is important to realise the damage it can do and stop using it now.

There are other ways that language can be insensitive, including words that are suggestive of gender stereotypes, such as telling someone to ‘man up’ or ‘grow a pair’ can also be upsetting, especially when directed at someone transgender. Again, challenge the use of this sort of language – as many people have never thought about how it might be hurtful and damaging.

Tips on Dealing with LGBT Bullying

  • If you’re being bullied in this way you need to tell your parents and report it to a teacher.
  • Keep a diary of the comments or behaviour. If you are being bullied online or via social media, take screenshots and keep them as evidence to show your parents, the school or the police
  • If you feel unable to speak to your parents or a teacher, perhaps there is another adult you trust that you can speak to and they can help.
  • If you feel able to, ignore the bullying so you are not giving the bully the reaction they are looking for. Please note, that if you feel they could get aggressive, do not put yourself at risk as your safety is more important.
  • If this bullying spills over into threats or violence, then it should be reported to the police as a hate crime. Many police forces have specialist units to deal with these incidents.
  • If your school doesn’t already do it, why not ask them to do some work on LGBT bullying? Sometimes, through education, this can help people to understand more and help make them realise the impact of their actions and the consequences they can have.

All statistics have been taken from Stonewall’s The School Report



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Need to talk?

If you are being bullied or are concerned about someone who is, you can receive help and support from one of our trained Mentors through our e-mentoring service.

If you would like a Mentor to email you, please contact: mentorsonline@bulliesout.com

If you would rather speak to someone over the telephone, you can call Childline on: 0800 1111

For any community-related issues, such as anti-social behaviour, we would suggest contacting your landlord, the local police or your local environmental health department (where applicable), as we are unable to deal with these types of complaints.