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Helping Someone Else

Perhaps it isn’t you that is being bullied, but you know of someone who is. Maybe that person is not a close friend, but a classmate or someone else you know. Have you ever stood and watched someone being bullied?

Bystanders are those who witness bullying and/or online bullying behaviour happening yet don’t do anything to stop it. Very often, this is because they don’t know what to do or they are afraid of retaliation.

If you witness any form of bullying behaviour, it is important to tell someone. By doing nothing, you are sending a message to the person who is displaying the behaviour that their behaviour is acceptable – and it isn’t!

Standing up to someone who is bullying another is frightening. Telling someone is frightening – but if we don’t do this, the bullying behaviour will continue. People cannot help if they don’t know what is happening.

Whether you know the person being bullied or not, there are things that you, as a bystander, can safely do to support them:

  • Don’t laugh and join in
  • Don’t encourage the person who is displaying the bullying behaviour in any way
  • Don’t video it
  • If a video is sent to you, don’t share it or show anyone else other than a trusted adult
  • Don’t share or like the posts (online bullying)
  • Stay at a safe distance and help the person being bullied to get away
  • Write down everything you have seen and heard. This will be really helpful and help give your teacher/trusted adult an understanding of what has been going on
  • Don’t become an “audience” for those displaying bullying behaviour
  • Reach out in friendship
  • Help the bullied in any way you can
  • Support those affected by bullying behaviour in private
  • If you notice someone being isolated from others, invite them to join you
  • Tell an adult

Remember, no act of kindness, however small, is ever wasted.

Don’t be part of the problem, be part of the SOLUTION!

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Need to talk?

If you are being bullied or are concerned about someone who is, you can receive help and support from one of our trained Mentors through our e-mentoring service.

If you would like a Mentor to email you, please contact: mentorsonline@bulliesout.com

If you would rather speak to someone over the telephone, you can call Childline on: 0800 1111

For any community-related issues, such as anti-social behaviour, we would suggest contacting your landlord, the local police or your local environmental health department (where applicable), as we are unable to deal with these types of complaints.